attracted poles?

what do those intelligent people do when they get married to mindless bums. sometimes u just look at a groom and bride and you want to shout out and warn one of the two. but you daren't. its not proper. not when so much money has been spent on that lahenga and the royal chairs and the hotel/club rent. maybe some under the chair dowry. so you, quarter pityingly, quarter sadistically, quarter gleefully that its someone else and not you, and quarter curiously wish the person your best wishes.